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Speaker 1 (0s): Okay. Both in bow ties. So look, I don't know why, I don't know why this was having such a hard time connecting and going live But. anyway, let's get on into it. So I just wanna say that, you know, We need each other. Men and women, I don't know if you guys know this, but we need each other. We need each other to procreate. We have a different set of gifts. And you know, what made me think about doing this video was I actually had not planned on doing a video today.
But, you know, because I am a fan of TikTok, right? you know, I I I talk about cleaning my timeline, right? And, you know, I like to look at videos. Right now I'm on a different timeline. Somehow I ended up on ballet TikTok, very interesting. you know, I've ended up on how all the dance teams had their competition this weekend. So you had Min last weekend or whatever. So you had Minnesota and Ohio State, LSU, all the different dance teams near incredible teams.
I ended up on that. TikTok, of course, I'm on the lions, like the animals of the wild, like that, that type of TikTok, right? And, and the cat family, like bull dogs and cats, right? So like the cat videos, the lion videos, I'm on that TikTok, I'm on the rushing TikTok. you know, you got like SMU rushing and, and Deanna and Baylor. So you see these women with like incredible amounts of money displayed in their clothes, jewelry. I'm not here to judge on, on, on the waste and how wealthy and how that's not for that.
I'm just here for like, just to see what they're wearing. So I'm on various, you know, different timelines, right? And it was refreshing because I wasn't getting the, I hate men, I hate women videos until today. And it of course it surfaces back into a timeline. And so all I can think, excuse me, all I can think about is the fact that what is it about our community? Now let me, okay, let me just say this. Let me caveat this.
I'm primarily focused on the black community. So in this instance, it doesn't mean that this isn't happening in other communities, but I'm focused on my community. So, but I'm like, what is it about our community where we continue to get on these apps and air our displeasure about each other so much? We air all our dirty laundry, all of our issues. Maybe that is what makes us unique, is we just don't care. We're like, we're just gonna get it all out.
But we get out here on these apps and we wanna talk about how much we can't stand each other and how men suck, women suck, all this sort of stuff. And I'm just kind of like, the people who talk about this the most are some of the most unhappiest people. They are, they're very unhappy people because to hyper focus on why you don't like someone else versus hyper-focusing on how do I make myself a better person?
How can I make the people around me better? See what, what a lot of these people are doing, they're getting out here on this app and they're extinguish the fire of other, they're extinguishing the fire of other people in order to light their own. Not that extinguishing a fire lights yours, but it does make yours seemingly seem brighter. Now, I'm just gonna say this, it's not that I don't think that we don't have issues in our community because we're so messed up.
We, we healing, we're angry, we're a lot of things right? But to get out on these apps and to hyperfocus on this stupid gender war, it's a mess. And the way I look at it is, if you're tired, be tired. I get that. If you wanna take a break from dating, then you take that break, right? And I'm not saying that you can't call out shenanigans, but many of these people are profiting off of stirring up just these negative emotions.
And, and I just wanna be clear, it's not that I don't think some of it is true on both sides, but then we get these people who go to the extremes. I'm just kind of like, I am over listening to people talk about the gender more stuff over and over and over again. I'm like, what, what is the upside? What do you want? Now let me just say this. I'm going to speak and I, I want to be clear, I am completely biased because of a black woman by name is the Black Opinionated Woman.
And I am going to give my opinion, and it's going to be biased where I'm going with this is because most of the content and the the podcast is out there are from men that dominates much of, you know, I guess the timelines of thinking. I mean, you can curate your timeline, but you gotta constantly curate it. Because I do believe, you know, the tube that's red or TikTok thinks that, you know, all black people want to hear this kind of content, which is hair, gender, war stuff, et cetera.
I like to see other things, travel videos and stuff like that. But it all comes back to somehow they want to continue to like, recommend these, these ignorant videos. So it's not that I don't ever pay attention to it, but I'm tired of paying attention to it. you know what I mean? So I'm at the point now where I scroll past, you know, I'm a feast or family kind of person anyway. So a lot of times I will unsubscribe from somebody because I don't wanna hear from it for a while. And then maybe resubscribe when I've had a break, you know?
But where I was going was with, with being biased, was that there's too many, there are too many men out here, but these ridiculous podcasts. And what they do is they fo I think they're gonna be women. They are jealous of women I think they're be women. They, they get on these podcasts and all they do is talk about women that lets me know they want to either be a woman, they want a woman And. they know they can't do their job without women because women are constantly part of their content.
That's what it is. And so I'm like the point where I'm like, women are running rent free through their Minds, rent free And. they know that if they Create content that stirs up the masses, like it will constantly get these views. And all it does just creates this, this feelings of discontent living the community.
We've got groups of people who just don't even like each other. Didn't Tupac say we're gonna have a race of babies that hate the ladies that have the babies? Didn't we have that in the song? I just feel like we've gotta stop and, and I really wish people would get off of some of these podcasts. And now people that they're on these stupid panels sit there and talk about it all the time. I'm like, Ugh, swipe.
It's the same thing over and over and over again. A bunch of men who don't like OnlyFans women, I'm like, that's what you want though. 'cause that's all you focus on. There's a whole group of women out here who are not on OnlyFans. I have never even gone to the OnlyFans site. I was like so ridiculously out of touch. Like I know now that like most, well much, or I, I don't know, OnlyFans, it's almost synonymous with, I would just say making videos of a sexual nature.
I thought OnlyFans was supposed to be like a place where you can display like behind the paint wall, like maybe some of your craft. I guess that is a craft, but you know what I mean? Like, I don't know, whatever, like skits or I, I don't know. But I'm like, you got these men who are obsessed with like OnlyFans women. And I'm like, why are you talking about these people? They will continue to make popular because you guys make them popular. You've got women out here thinking that men are just the antichrist.
Well, a lot of them are behaving a certain way because women allow them to be, behave a certain way if women at the grassroots level would stop doing certain things, right? I'm not saying it's their fault that men are misbehaving, but they also, I just feel like women enable some of it. But I guess I'm saying it's their fault, right? What, where I'm going with this is 'cause I don't think it's a, I don't think women should be blamed for men's bad behavior, but what I will say is, you know, everyone's making these mistakes.
We start like tightening up how we wanna behave, how we wanna show up in this world, I, think what happens is people over time, they, they change their, their actions. If all the women decided to just stop engaging in certain types of bad behaviors, then men won't have anyone to deal it with. Now I know that's a pipe dream, but what I'm saying is when you reduce the, the access, when you reduce those numbers, so whatever, and you don't put up with things, men will change too.
You can show people better than you can tell people. But getting out here on these ignorant whole podcasts and talking about it, I don't, I don't see what the upside is. I don't know what people are trying to prove at this point. I don't know what, what is the end goal? What is the real end goal to get a whole bunch of dudes who sound really stupid getting on these dumb podcasts or sitting, they having these little panels like they sound so dumb, And, they think that they are eating, like they think that they are so smart, the responses are stupid.
The questions are like stupid. They all look stupid. It is just so stupid. We're not talking about real things. We should be talking about things like how do we want to bounce to the other side in this jacked up economy? How do we increase our foothold, you know, our footprint on land? How do we increase the opportunities for our children to be educated?
How do we increase our financial education? When are we gonna start telling our people that they need to have trust? You could have a will to trust. When are we gonna have these conversations at Igna and not just like a one off like Financial Tuesday at 11 to 11:03 AM like, no. When are we gonna have these conversations? When are we gonna start saying, let's over sexualizing ourself. Let's stop, let's stop doing that in our music.
When are we gonna have these conversations on, you know, why we need more doctors? When are we gonna have more conversations on why it's important for us to travel around this world? The kinds of things that maybe we should accumulate. If you're gonna accumulate anything, maybe we should start accumulating more metal, more precious gems and battles. I'm just talking off the top of my head, how do we solve the inner city crisis?
I am guilty of throwing my hands up because it's exhausting. It is exhausting. But we would rather get on these stupid panels and talk about, well, what is, she's a gold digger. Okay, somebody's a gold digger. Well now what, what, what do you want? What do you want? She can't get gold that you don't even have anyway, because most of you are legitimately broke. And women should be looking to choose men of means. They absolute absolutely should because they bear the risk of having, once they have, they become pregnant.
Why would you not want someone of me like, these conversations are so dumb, she just wants me for more money. That's one of the reasons why women want you. They wanna provide her. They want somebody who's going, who's going to give them the best way of life. Shut up. It's like the dumbest conversation. There's more men talking about how to find a woman to be a wife, and they're not trying to teach them how to be husbands. They don't teach them any of that stuff.
I don't know. I feel like We need each other. Everybody needs somebody. And the more I talk, hear people talking about how they don't like somebody how they're just, they, they, they don't wanna deal with administrative. I'm like, you want somebody too? And it's okay to say, you know what? I really would love a companion, a friend. We can't even get honest and we can't be vulnerable. Now I'm not talking about get out here and I'm not talking about that, where you're like snot and crying, but why can't we be vulnerable?
So you know what? I'm just in this place now. I know in order to be vulnerable, you open yourself up to like ignorant people saying, see, this is the reason why I told you hit the wall. All those stupid stuff. You gotta let the stupid be stupid. Some people just can't be saying, you gotta let the stupid people be stupid. It's a lot of them out there. They all have podcasts except for me. You should pay attention to mine. Subscribe and like my video because I'm perfect in every way. Where I'm going with this is We need each other.
We need each other. We bring different things to the table. We need each other to procreate, We need each other. Yeah, so tired, my apologies. Anyway, I just wanted to just get that off my chest because like I said, I had not planned on doing a video and I was enjoying. you know, I I, I set several alarms when I get up in the morning because I'm dysfunctional. So when I get up, I don't necessarily wanna move right away, so I'll check my email check or whatever, right?
And then maybe watch a couple of videos on TikTok. I enjoy TikTok. I don't care if the Chinese are monitoring me. I don't care if they have my information. They, they have it anyway, so I just wanna watch some of these little line videos I'm in like, look, I'm invested in Cali for those of you need to go on out there and just look up Callie the Lioness or something like that. I love her story. It's like a whole soap opera. I think they need to make these into like television shows instead of like documentaries, right? I'm invested in Callie and her cubs, justice for Callie.
Just so you know, Callie was out there. She was in a pride, but then she went Horing, right? She went hoeing and she had these like cubs by another dude. And so her tribe, her her pride got mad at her and was like, oh no, they kicked her out. It was like a whole big thing. So, but I, I like Callie, Callie, Callie, the lying, that's where her cubs and her sister, that whole story is fascinating. Go look it up, But. anyway, the cat, let me tell you all the cat videos. So when you go from cleaning your timeline on North scene, TikTok, those stupid, you know, for those of you who know, you know, you know what I'm talking about.
The most scary ones. I'm trying to get off of that, by the way. All this, so many different timelines that, or, or my palate, well, it's for you Paige I think is what they call it. To, to, to clean my, my timeline of the toxic gender war stuff, it was great. And so it to resurfaced. I mean, there's a woman out there right now trying to convince women over 40 to not get married because you're gonna be nothing more than a hospice wife, although it's kind of funny. But not everybody's gonna be a hospice wife.
All I'm saying is cleanse your timeline. We need each other. We have to stop with the toxic, the toxic, toxic content. All we're doing is creating this negative movement. I guarantee you, if we started creating different content, if we create, if we created different content, we would create a different movement. I think we would start treating each other nicely. The words that would come outta our mouth, I think the way we behaved it would be a sense of pride. Instead we just creating these messed up toxic content that now it's like people get on these podcasts and if you think I'm joking now you can do, you can look it up yourself.
There are more men out here in social media than women And. they are out here creating all these stupid podcasts saying the same thing. It's so embarrassing that people get out there. This is, it's like the zeitgeist of the times, right? It's literally embarrassing and it's like they're gonna look back on that. I'm telling you, they're gonna be like, I cannot believe I was out there on somebody's internet talking like this. It's embarrassing. They don't even have enough sense to, it's like, I wish I could take them outside of their bodies and let them observe themselves, like outside of this timeline, And, they another, like, just, just different time And.
they can, I just, oh, I can't even get the words out. It is so embarrassing. It's like you see it and I just suffer secondhand embarrassment for these people on these ridiculous podcasts. Alright, so now that I've gotten that all off my chest and I know I should have gone around and I could have been at my exit by now, but since I'm yammering here, figured I just ride this slow lane here doing 57 miles per hour, I'm getting ready to get off anyway.
Look, you guys know what you need to do. Go ahead. Like this video, because the, this look, the significance of like in the video is, or, or or making a comment or interacting is this actually let the algorithm know. Like I, people like this. She wants to be heard, people want to hear from her. This is interesting to, to some people you need to do it, forward it to your aunties or whatever. But if you like it and if you haven't subscribed, you should subscribe because I'm amazing.
But by doing that, it actually triggers the algorithm. If you don't, it's okay too because I'm still gonna get out here and make my videos when I want to anyway because that's just how I am. It's not gonna change anything. How, I mean, well not for me, but if you do so it actually will get it out to more people. But I'm still gonna get out here and just get my opinion on stuff that I'm gonna get my opinion on because that's just how, hang up. Alright, I'm interested to hear what your thoughts are on some of the other videos that I've had.
I mean it's like, I'll get people comments sometimes, but I think people are just more interested in my shorts and I don't make enough shorts. And I know they say you should put you on a separate channel, but I don't want to. I don't care. Maybe I will. I don't know. I'm, I'm good either way. Alright, I, think that's it. Have a good one.
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