S4E112 More on James and Fuhad, etc

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Speaker 1 (0s): Hi. all right. Good morning. My bows and bow ties. Look, I don't have a lot of time. Go ahead. I don't have a whole lot of time. I have about less than 20 minutes. I just wanted to go on here and just make a couple of comments since I had time this morning. I have bus duty today and instead of doing a video from the car, figured like, come on. Well, I'm still here. Lemme say.

So this James and FHA set of podcasters from the uk. Look, I believe people make mistakes all the time, but this is what I would say to everyone or people who look like me. As I've gotten older, I have been more selective and more careful of who I lend my support behind, my subscription, et cetera.

I say this because not everybody grows at the same rate. Number two, I. Think people in America who look like me, like me, forget that the black experience here does not equate to the same as what is experienced in the UK, Canada. 'cause even there, there's some differences, even like with the Canadians, right? Even though they're more closely aligned with us.

But I think we make the assumption that everyone has the same experience that we have in the United States. Black Americans are more, lemme rephrase that. Americans, I would say collectively are more in tuned with race because this is a very race conscious country. Black Americans, I would say are definitely even more in tune with it.

We, we are very aware because we are forced to learn a lot through heuristics, okay? And for those of you who are not familiar with heuristics, they're like these little rules of thumb. There's, there's those things you learn through experiences along the way, right? So it is, I would say, easier for us to decode language and behaviors and that sort of thing. So for when people come from outside of the United States, And, they come here I.

think those men that were the men that were on the Andrew Schultz podcast. See, I don't even follow those guys like I've seen before. I've seen a couple of haha jokes from 'em. But like up until the other day, I, I couldn't even remember their name. Like they would come across my feed on occasionally, I may listen for like about 10 or 15 seconds to a joke or something silly and I moved on. but I feel like with them coming from the uk now for those of you from the uk, if, if I'm wrong, let me know. I'm actually really open to hearing what, what your thoughts are.

I feel like American culture, I'm butchering this, but I have a, I'm, I'm trying to make a point. In America, we're very almost brash in your face. Like we're American. It is what it is. And we're kind of like forced to be that way too. 'cause you know, we're se we're separated by ocean to the left and to the right of us. We, we live in our own world and we're like, this is what it is. you know, you're gonna judge us. It is what it is. So we also are more willing to call out certain things.

And I feel like when you go over to the uk, it's, and it is been a while since I've been to the uk, but it's almost like people want to be reserved and respectable. And I put earmarks around that. And so I feel like those men maybe are just not used to it doesn't mean racism or anything doesn't exist over there. Or micro and macroaggressions don't exist in the uk. But I don't know if they were prepared for the level of, oh, we are gonna hit, we are gonna bother you up with these and wanna see how you feel about it.

Right? like you may have had, they may have had some feeling in their gut or something, but didn't know how to name it. Like, and probably was like, ha ha ha ha a little bit cowardice, right? When you come here, like we are so much more in tuned and trained with how to see and decode language. We see it all the time. It's about all the time. Especially a woman who looks like me. So for them to come over and sit on that clowns podcast number one was like a big, like really number two.

It's kind of like when you are presented with a situation, now you're like, like your ethics kick in. Now I wanna pause here for a second. Everyone has a moral compass. I have a point to this. Everyone has a moral compass right there. Those, those things that are taught to you. Religion will give you a set of morays if you follow science or whatever, right? You have rules for how you're gonna live. Thou shalt not kill thou shalt not do all these things, but ethics are personal. Those are those things that you learn over a period of time is through a set of experiences and it starts to challenge your, so I suspect those men came over and it's not that they don't know it doesn't exist, but you gotta also realize now this is where I'm gonna make people from the UK really mad at me.

I feel like oftentimes when I listen to people from the UK speak, sometimes I feel like there's still a little bit of a conquered mentality, right? Because the way racism and macro and microaggressions present, based off what I have seen, I don't live over there. I haven't lived in Europe in a long time. I have never lived in the uk I visited in the uk, but the way it presents over there is different than how it present here.

And that's not to say that they're like, they can't see it, but I think because here we're so much more well versed in experienced in like, what was that? What, what did you just say? Right? I think they just, I don't know. That's the only thing I could think of. Also, I do think that they already have some i some anti-blackness, right? Because it was easy for them to hee-haw.

It was easy for them to hee-haw sitting on, on those chairs in that interview with Andrew Schultz and taking shots at black women. So I do think they also have some of that internalized anti-blackness and I think people are gonna think this is, oh, because they don't want to date black women. Whatever. Like, I don't even care. Like I don't, I'm not checking for 'em. I don't know if people are, I don't know. I don't follow 'em like that. So I mean, like up until a couple days ago, I, I didn't even know their names.

I, I, it was like the two guys in the, the uk. Like I would see them I, think on TikTok, actually I'd get a co I think it was TikTok. You get a couple of jokes and move on. I just think for them, I mean for people probably think, oh, people are mad because they probably don't like, I'm like, no one cares about those things from the uk. Like, we're not even checking for people in the uk. Seriously, it was more along the lines of if you have a fan base that supports you, even if they weren't your fan base, why would you let someone take shots at people who look like your family members?

So I would say for those who live here in the us, we're so used to seeing that type of thing, decoding, that type of thing, understanding language and scenarios. And I'm not saying we get it right all the time either. We're presented with that. And so when I saw some of the clips, it was like, it was like immediate for, for at least for me. But for many of us who saw it, it's like, what the heck was that? Right? It's immediate. And then to watch their reaction, it was more like, okay, these guys are literally just buck dancing now.

This is a com comedic buck dance. Like they, they have sold their souls. Like, it was kinda like, okay, I was already mentally checked out. I was like, all right, I put them in clown category. But then after I had an opportunity to reflect, because you know, everybody's coming out with all the reactions. I was like, you know, I'm not so sure that like I, they knew something wasn't right because it was, it was raggedy, but I think for them, like how do you maneuver in these spaces? I'm not so sure they're well versed on how to maneuver in such spaces, especially when you get that American brand of it, right?

So I tell people all the time, like, I still, I'm a very proud American. I grew up here. It is what it is, but it doesn't mean I don't recognize the faults that we have here. And a lot of people, you can go ahead and sit over there. Yeah, I don't think anybody can see you. Sorry, I'm talking to my daughter. She's eating her breakfast making sure she's not in the camera shot. Yeah, you're, you're, you're fine. So I recognize that we have issues here. all right. These guys that are, let me wind it back.

When I first got on, I said, we have to be careful about who we lend our support behind, that type of thing, right? And for me, this is gonna sound like xenophobic. And it's not that I'm anti IMI immigrant, I don't wanna say immigrant. It's not that I'm anti people from the diaspora because I'm actually very interested in people who are displaced or misplaced throughout the diaspora and from the continent. But I definitely feel the pushback. I feel like for whatever reasons, people wanna take shots at us, people who were born here who identify as Black American.

And so for me, I'm very careful about who I lend my support behind or my cycles behind. Because in my collection of experiences, most of the time it has been met with a lot of negativity, a lot of projection of what their thoughts are of black Americans. And no, this isn't just something that's saw online. I wanna make this clear. I've spoken with people, okay? And I'm talking about even as far back as my college days.

Like dudes, I didn't know. Like one dude, just like, I'll never forget, I was in college, I was studying. It was time for me to go. I packed up my, my book bags. I was in the student union. I was on my way out. And there's this one guy, I wanna say he was from Zimbabwe, I can't remember I, think he was from Zimbabwe. I was on my way out and I didn't even know he was leaving. Nice guy. And I walked out of the student union, I pushed the door and I vaguely remember somebody next to me, you, you're fine, you're fine.

They can't see you. That's my son, that's my daughter's twin brother. And I was walking outta the student, student union on the way out he was to my right. And I didn't know he wanted to come up and hold the door, like open for me. And hey, hey, I'm, I'm live. I'm live. Okay? So long story short, he is like, this is the problem with you American women. He is like starts setting it off. And I'm like, what's happening? And by the way, he was a nice looking guy. He was big, he was built.

I wasn't, back then, I was tightly. And I'm like, whoa, with this guy. Like, but he just starts going off. I didn't even know I, I was just trying to leave didn didn't know he was trying to leave. I didn't know he was next to me. The point I'm making was he lit up Black American women. He went off, I'm walking, he's still walking and he is setting it off. And I'm like, have a good day. So I keep moving. I've played tennis with people from, I can't remember where she's from.

I don't wanna identify names 'cause to protect the Anderson. Anyway, the point I'm making from college, up until now, the people I have met from various countries within from the continent have always said something incredibly negative and offensive. They made all these projections and I'm like, well then why are you here? So I'm very careful on who I support because I know the kinds of thoughts and beliefs they have.

So when the Tyler girl came out with her water song, cute song, right? Now, did I go download her song? No. Did I invest any real mental cycles into this girl? No. 'cause first of all, and I know you guys are gonna be mad, Tyler thinks she's different from Black Americans, but the only way that she's getting the notoriety is doing exactly what black female entertainers too. You ready? She's a singer or an artist.

So you know what she did? She did the same thing that they all have to do. She has to get up on the stage and shake her hind parts and wear no clothes. She's not Billie Eilish who could just get up there and sing. Ah, like no, she can't just get up there and sing. It's not like her, her voice is like this great voice. She's got a cute little voice. Make me sweat, you know, whatever. I don't even know all the words. And where I'm going with it is, I didn't invest a whole lot of mental cycles in Tyler. She's a cute girl, but she looks like every other cute girl in the industry.

Like the way they source all these girls, they look the same. And she thought she was different. And she found out quickly that she wasn't, when I listened to like so many people from the UK talk about black Americans, and I'm like, wait a second, you guys hate us so much. And yet you're cosplaying about black people. You come over here and, and try to get these roles from Hollywood and everything like that, which I don't have an issue with them competing for roles. I mean, I, I really actually don't.

But for someone, for a group of people who have so much to say they want to cosplay black people, I mean black Americans so much, I don't see anybody wanting to run over there and cosplay black British. Well, we can't mimic the, the accent anyway, but where I was going with all of this, I'm gonna bring it back together. I think we have to be careful with, and I would say black women in particular, we always wanna support people. We wanna throw our support behind people blindly.

And there's something to be said that's sweet about it, but it's also, so it's, it's, it's like rooted in naivete, right? We have to be careful with that. Like, I wasn't even anti Tyler, right? Like I just never got caught up. And she's proving from what I've seen and heard exactly that some of the things I thought these two guys, James and coming from the uk, they're, they're proving everything. I, I'm thinking like, you know, like a lot of them have their issues with black Americans.

So for me, I'm like, I just take it with a grain of salt. Now do I think these, all these people are these like horrible people? No, not really. I mean they're human, like the rest of us. but I, I'm very careful with who I throw my energy and support behind. Especially when it comes to people who look like me outside of here. Because I know at the end of the day they have issue to take umbrage up with someone who looks like me. And I'm like, I didn't do anything with you. So these guys, like I said, the the and what, whatever his name James, I just feel like they walked into a situation, And, they got their learn, they got their learning lesson.

This was a really good learning lesson. They walked into a situation and I could be wrong, I'd be wrong before, I'll be wrong again. They walked into a situation And, they weren't, they weren't well versed or experienced in America's brand of micro macroaggressions, racism, whatever like that. And I I think they knew it for what it was, but I don't think they were thinking about it 'cause they had their own anti-blackness, I'm guessing. But I think they just didn't have the experience.

I don't think they were prepared for like, oh, welcome to America. So take that with a grain of salt. I, what did I even title this? I called this moron James and fha. That's probably a good, good title. I don't know, I'll probably change the title later on today. But that, that's just my take on it. If you notice I did not bring up their content 'cause or or the Andrew Schultz interview because I usually don't like to promote those things. I'll speak about it and then move on. but I don't like to bring up the video.

You guys can go look, look it up yourself. Very rarely do I bring up other people's stuff like that, right? But you can go, I mean seriously stop. I just told you I'm live. Cut that off please. Cut. Cut the flow down some. Thank you sir. My son loves to do this. He wastings I go live and he listen to turn on everything, bang, bang, bang, open slam, turn the water on high, this, that, and the other. He is like the one the most. Anyway, so that's just where I'm at with this top. See, she's over there laughing one of these days.

Maybe I'll let them get on camera. but I like to protect my family because they didn't ask for this. This is my channel. So I always make sure I protect their anonymity. Not because it's some big secret, but because I like to keep a separation between you guys and my personal life. But. anyway, those are my thoughts. I don't know, maybe I got it wrong. I don't know. I don't wanna make excuses for them, but I'm calling it the way I see it. I think that they, they got their their welcome to America moment.

And when you go against the very demographic who supports you, which is the black woman demographic, and like I said, you know, we sniff that out quickly. Like I said, I don't even subscribe to these guys. I don't know much about 'em. I've only seen them come across my feet a few times. There's a couple of jokes or whatever. I got a couple of hee-haw, a couple of chuckles and kept it moving. But that's just me. I don't lend a whole lot of support to a whole lot of people. They have to prove it, I guess.

And if they don't wanna prove it, that's fine with me. I don't care. They don't care. Look, I don't even promote my channel enough. I'm like the worst. I mean, I just do what I do and then I move on. But, all right, so for those of you who are on in your watching, if you haven't seen, but I said earlier on this video, you're gonna have to watch the replay. I'm going to disconnect shortly. It is 7:31 AM and my son is doing everything he can to try me this morning. So I need to get off of this and be a good parent and tie my shoes that I'm wearing and make sure that my lunch bag is correct.

Have a good one.

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