S4E128 Men, What do you want from women?

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Speaker 1 (0s): Good morning bows and bow ties. So look, you see, can you see me okay? all right. So look, is this the right angle I'm trying to get? Okay. I don't know. Is this good? What is happening right now? all right, so look, I had a good little run. I had a good run. I had no shenanigans for a while in terms of what was in my feet. I was getting nice videos on my lions Maxwell the cat, for those of you who know, you know Maxwell, the cat is out here bugging in these streets.

We got Mr. Kits, everything. We got a lot going on, right? Like some good stuff. Of course we got the pop the balloon stuff that shows up. But I've been getting a lot of my sports stuff, right? And I say all this to be, to just, I just want you guys to know it was nice. I had a nice little run. I didn't have a whole lot of angry women that looked like me talking about why they hate men and, and, and all this other stuff. And the angry men talking about why women are modern And, they modern is bad and all.

I'm tired of hearing about it. And, they talk about something else, but you got me. There was a guy that was out here in these streets on the internet and came to my feet and he started complaining about modern women. I was, sorry, this guy is a loser. But it hit me, you know? 'cause you hear the same rhetoric. And I'm like, man, what do y'all want? I don't think you really know what you want. You don't know what you want. You don't know what you want.

You're just so unhappy that you want to put your misery or make someone else accountable for your own misery. Now we like to get on women for a lot of things. And look, we got our own mess. Women, we have our own mess. But the men out here in these streets, let me tell you, I don't think I even think like y'all are hopeless. Like there needs to be a national sit on someone's couch day. And it needs to be done en mass because I don't understand why men like getting on the internet.

I'm picking on the men today. Why do y'all like getting on the internet talking about these matter women, they, they, they got all their degrees. I'm like, when is education bad? And then they think we're supposed to care. And I'm like, you should care. You should care that you don't have them. But then they start talking about like, modern women are too independent. And then people wanna split hairs on what it means to be independent and blah, blah, blah. And I'm like, let me get this right.

You don't want a modern woman, but you don't want to take care of one. I'm just trying to understand, asking for a friend. Now, granted, I don't have a dog in a fight, right? I'm not looking for a mate. I have my mate, right? But to me, the conversation, these conversations are so, like, aren't you guys tired now looking, I'm probably gonna go through a bad area because I did not wanna hop on the highway taking a couple of bath throws, the scenic route. 'cause that's the mood that I'm in because I don't feel like fooling with the highway today until I have to.

So, look, and it's so pretty back here, even though you guys can't get the full view just getting this side of the road, it's, it's forged. Anyway, I'm just like, what do y'all want? You don't want a modern woman, but you don't wanna take care of a woman in a very traditional sense. It doesn't make sense. You don't appreciate women being educated, but you make fun of women who aren't that bright. You wanna bring them on these podcasts and, and, and take shots at women who really should not be the ones up there representing the collective, right?

They find the most vulnerable, silly acting women put 'em on these, these panels and stuff. I'm like, you've got these men complaining about women, and now they're not complaining about themselves. They're not fixing themselves, they're not solving problems, solve problems. I don't understand this. Like I said, I'm taking, I'm, I'm making fun of the men today because, you know, I, I'll get on women sometimes when they start complaining about single women, married women, whatever. but I don't understand why men choose to get on the internet and continue to whine and cry about modern women.

If that is all you're talking about, that lets me know you have nothing going on. It is so embarrassing. I mean, the second hand embarrassment. I, I mean that's why I was like, you know, when I opened up my feet and I had my nice little run of the lions and then the cats and the dogs and, and sports and, and, and well, I get a lot of sports stuff and I'm like, for this to come back up on my feet. And I was like, let me listen. And you know what? I deserved to be annoyed.

See, I got exactly what I deserve. I was like this guy, I don't even know who it was. I was like, I was like, you. What? The point I'm making is I don't understand. Like I got on the women for their shenanigans. Why men get on the internet and complain about women. I'm like, men are so hyper-focused on women, at least the ones that look like me. And I'm just kinda like, I am embarrassed for you because it's so telling, because it, to me, I'm like, you have nothing else going on.

When you have other things going on, when you have a focus, when you have a priority, the things you, you let other things go. But the thing that tickles me the most is like, when people talk about these so-called modern women, the very women that they claim they don't want, that they chase after the ones that they don't want. I'm like, well, I don't you, you should want a modern woman because you don't wanna take care of one in a traditional sense, right? So I'm like, what do you want? You don't want a modern woman, but you don't wanna take care of one.

You don't like the fact that these modern women are, are talking about their degrees in education. But the ones that you seem to make fun of the most aren't the d dos that you bring up on those panels. The ones that can't intelligently speak to anything. You don't wanna take care of anyone. You're complaining about everything. You hold on to things that don't matter. You have these weird values. You, you, you, you want all these things. And like when the fact of the matter is, I don't see anybody but breaking chains from the learned helplessness that I see happening all the time.

I don't see any of these men cre creating things, solving problems, coming up with solutions. And let me tell you something, I don't want you to listen to this. And you guys have heard me say this before. Now I'm gonna say it again. Now, listen, I shared with my son who's in college about why it's important to be educated. I said one, you, it's hard to change something when you don't understand what the problems are. So you go to school, not to say that you have to go to school for everything, but the value of going to school is to learn about systems.

There's education systems, social systems, medical systems. Your body is a system. You've got computer systems, economic systems. There's all kinds of systems and there's method, various methodologies for how you can solve some of these problems. And a lot of people who seem to get it understand that many of these things are intersectional. They do relate to each other. Economic systems can have an impact on your body, your medical system, economic systems can have an impact on social systems.

Boggles the mind that to me, there appears to be this war on intellectualism. There appears to be a war on being educated. So when I listen to some of these whacked out weirdo men that I call the wows, well, anybody that's a whacked out weirdos a wow. I'm like, what about this makes sense? Like when you woke up and you decided to go on these diet tribes about education or whatever, and I'm just kind of like, you did, did, did you really mean that?

Did you plan to wake up and save these such things? I don't think the men today know what they really want other than a servant. I don't think many of the men today like women, they'll do that. But they don't like women. They don't like And. they just wanna be around men. Hey, knock yourself out. But they don't like women as people because they don't choose to engage with women and explore their humanity.

T we got some some crazy feminists out there too who act like that towards member. That's a whole other, that's a different conversation. But we're talking about you blacked out weirdo men today. I'm like, I don't understand why you would wanna get on the internet and complain about modern women and talk about things like that're so independent as if independence is a bad thing. Let me break it down to you. When I met my husband, I was a highly independent person. It doesn't mean that I didn't want someone to take care of me and do all these other things, but I was also capable of doing such things on my own.

So if something should ever happen to my husband, he knows I have it. And you know what he also did? He made sure that we were set up. Most of the men I know that are high on like the real ones that are real men, not the ones who are like cosplaying as men. Let me tell you something. It is like almost like a badge of honor for them to be like, yeah, I take care of my wife, I take care of my like, like not in a sense of monetary, but basically like I got it. Like they are leading that family.

Heck, if they can retire, they're, they're high earning wife. Like, especially the those that are out there in Silicon Valley and stuff like that. And I keep telling some of these whacked out weirdos. I'm like, look, a lot of these men who are making mammals, let me tell you, look who they go after educated women. you know why? Because women help promote their legacy. Dumb dumbs. They're the ones that pass down the information from these high earning men to their children.

They carry out that legacy. Women carry that legacy. They push or they've helped push that legacy through the children. And I'm just sitting here thinking like, and I listen to these men out here, like these modern women. Remember these men, your, your Google dudes and stuff like that, love these men. All these like people who are high earners. Even the one, okay, let me dumb it down for a second. All you gotta do is go to any SEC school and look at who's in these sororities and in fraternities now, pay attention, learn something today.

When you look at who's in these sororities and their specific ones, these men like to end up with those types of chicks. They keep that money within certain families. And remember, the chicks still come out with an education. Now some of them are, are gonna be like super smart women. Some of 'em might be like, ah, it doesn't matter. They went and got educated and then they keep all that within certain families, right?

And what is going on here? So while these men that look like me are out here talking sounding crazy about women with these degrees, I'm like, the ones who are successful go get women with degrees But anyway. I don't think you men know what you really want. You don't because y'all say some of the wildest stuff. The only thing you want is for someone to do something for you instead of actually having a partner, someone that you get to heehaw with when something is funny. I'm just kinda like, I don't understand.

I don't know what is going on. but I really think it needs to be a national holiday where they're like, we need all the whacked out weirdos. This is the national sit on someone's couch day and y'all need to talk about some stuff. A lot of it's unresolved trauma from not having a daddy in their life. So they get mad at their mom, right? There's a lot of that going on, and it's just weird. So a lot of times I will use myself as an example and look, maybe it makes me pick me, I don't know. but I always tell people, I'm like, wait a second, you're talking about all these So-called independent women.

And I'm like, I don't think that they understand what they're really saying. And, they will argue with you. They will. And you know, I don't argue, I'm not arguing with the dude, but I'm like, okay, do what you want. They will sit there and defend to the death, death. I've got men. I've had a guy talk to me about men, men being a prize. These are, and I had to, I clown him in question. I'm like, are you sitting around with a bunch of men talking about men being a prize? I just wanna make sure you're, I'm, I'm clear.

I wanna be clear. You sat down and had a conversation with a bunch of, so-called Grown Men about why you guys are the prize. I'm like, that lets me know. There's no hope for you. I'm like, if that's what you're talking about, I'm just saying, okay, so like, I don't like this lane that I'm in. I mean, like, this lane's got me like crawling at like two miles an hour. I'm, I'm not a fan of this lane, and that other lane is only doing about five.

I'm like, well, five is better than two. Oh, anyway, so getting back to the point where I was making was this man came on my feed and I was kind of like irritated because I'm like, oh, I had a good run without the shenanigans. And I was the dumb dom who listened to the man crying and whining about modern women. And, and I don't know, I was, I mean, you know, 'cause my a DD kicks in and I'm like, okay, I didn't even listen to the whole thing.

I listened to some of it. And I was like, oh, poor fella. He's so conquered. all right, so look, I don't think y'all know what you want. I don't think you understand anything I. think y'all need to get off of some of these apps and go back to the old school way of talking to people and dating people. Like, leave your home. Go talk to somebody. Get to know people. Find out if you have like things, stop trying to be so hard all the time. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Laugh from the belly, from the gut.

Laugh from the gut. Laugh all the way from the gut. you know, go out there and just be vulnerable. And, and, and it may not work out and it may work out and try things and, and live. But to have all of these, these shackles that you put upon yourself and have this ridiculous, how is that working out for you? Is it working? Are you happy? Because what you're doing, if you keep doing what you're doing, you're gonna keep getting what you're getting.

I had a conversation with a man older than me. I'm 48, and he was talking about how that he can't deal with these American women. This was recent. This was about a year ago. A week ago. He can't deal. He said he can't deal with these American women and he's gonna go over in Europe and deal with the women there. And I paused for a second, and I was like, I don't even know where to take this. So I just said, wait a second. Are they all the same age?

Yes, they're 30 somethings. And I'm like, so then I was already thinking, okay, well he's 50 something and he's chasing 30 something. That's a whole other conversation that I've had. but I said, okay, so the American women in their western ways. And I was like, but Europe is considered Western, unless you're talking about Eastern Europe and even still don't think they might, depending on who you talk to be considered Western. He paused. I was like, so for the sake of discussion to say you're tired of these 30 5-year-old women here in the United States, they're single, right?

He's like, yeah, yeah, they're single. And these are educated women, they're lawyers. And this and the other. I was like, okay, so there's something wrong with the single 30 5-year-old woman here, but there's nothing wrong with a single 30 5-year-old woman in Europe. Now, here I am camping for single women. Now, you know, I don't like to cape for the single woman because they stay coming for married women, right? But you know, supplement, he says like, I can't have you attacking women. And he's like, he paused. And I was like that, that that never occurred to you.

Why are they single over there in Europe, which is also Western? It's just they're on a different continent. But I'm just saying, you know, Macquarie reminds what I know. And I'm like, and why does it mean that there's something wrong with them? Why can't it just be that they just haven't found somebody? What's wrong with you? Why? Why are you chasing that? And then we went to this a whole other conversation, and the point I'm making is I'm like, y'all don't know what you really want. It's like there's always a problem with everyone.

It could never be you. You can't be satisfied. You don't know what you want because I don't think you're settled within yourself. You're not, okay. My little bun is giving me a headache. It's too tight. Oh Lord Jesus, okay, I loosened it a little bit. So anyway, let me just stop talking and figure out how I can get, I hate being on this route. I'm like, Ugh. So I need to just, y'all need to figure it out. Let me just get off. I mean, I don't know if you guys have any thoughts or comments or anything like that, but leave it.

Just don't be disrespectful. I don't care if you disagree with me. Leave it. Leave your thoughts, leave your comments. Doesn't matter. I mean, everybody's just talking. Just don't be disrespectful. 'cause if I'm not disrespectful to you, don't be disrespectful To me, dialogue is good even when it's contrary to each other, right? Dialogue is good sometimes until it becomes like true Dumbo. Like until you like ignore facts, but all right, I need to figure out how I'm going to get out this traffic, and I don't think I'm gonna be able to get out this traffic.

This is gonna delete me by a good 10 minutes. Maybe not. Oh, it's moving up there. all right, So, let know what you guys think. I think I'll be able to get to work actually on time. Let me know what you think. Let me, let me know. you know what, if there's something that you want me to talk about, let me know. I mean, I like to get on a woman too sometimes, because some of these women are out here on some other kind of stuff. They are just really psycho, really psycho. I'm like, you, you the help But.

anyway, I was just getting on the men today because it was just the most ridiculous conversation. And all of y'all like to sit there and, and, and, and like big each other up and hype each other up and bring these like weirdo women on these panels. You were like, yeah. Yeah. Because in that one time I was talking to my mother, I was like, I'm like, I don't even know what she's saying right now. I don't even care if it was like some sweat verbs or anything. Just makes sense. Makes sense. That's the kind of women that they bring up there who are saying things like, well, I can be a better woman to him than his wife and all the stuff.

I'm like, wait, what? all right, let me get off. I'm rambling....