S5E9 IGO - It's Ghetto Outside... but Are We Ready?

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Speaker 1 (0s): Good morning. Hang on a little bit of my Fenty lip gloss. Lemme see. Okay. All right. So I'm getting started on my journey and I don't know how long I'll stay on camera. I'll probably come off camera, but I wanna talk about, excuse me, IGIG up.

Yeah, that would be basically, excuse me, a coworker coined, well, I coined IGO, but she said it's ghetto outside. And so she made me laugh because we were talking about people need to live their lives and we were talking about how this one particular person should just go outside and enjoy life date, not date, whatever. And my one coworker made me laugh because she was telling the other one, Hey, you know, I'm outside.

It's get outside. But she come outside basically saying she just lives, she doesn't worry about the shenanigans of male female relationships. She actually takes humor in some of the dating stuff. I mean, she, she's just not caught up. And this is what I was gonna say. You know, I, I'm, I, I am very fortunate that I'm not, and I say earmarks outside, I hear all the dating robes and I listen to some of these grown men who are still so focused on women instead of focused on taking care of themselves.

And I can see why people are like, I'll just stay inside. Now, granted, I'm one of those people, I'm gonna want to go live my life, but I can't speak to other people. Everyone has different comfort levels if it wants different needs. But when she said it's ghetto outside, I thought it was hilarious. And everybody laughing. I just got a really good heat call at that because I guess it kind of is. And so I remembered having the conversations for conversations and I'm like, I don't even know what I would do if I had to go back outside.

I said, you know, I would probably get played or maybe not. I don't know. 'cause the way that people move out here, you know, you hear all these horror stories, I'm like, oh my. So she's like, you know, you probably wouldn't get played. You would probably be even more discerning or something to that effect. But, you know, just sitting here listening to people talk, and it wasn't sorry about that. One of my alarms went off. It wasn't like negative talking out the men or any of that kinda stuff.

It wasn't that they were just making me laugh. And I've had conversations with men too, And they were just laughing. At least the one was laughing. She said, you know, just go out and have a good time, date, or not date. And just, she, she's not really caught up. She was, she was so entertaining in how she described how it's so ghetto outside that I could not stop laughing. And I think her perspective on all of it is she's gonna live for herself, right?

She's going to take care of herself and her responsibilities, her family, whatever. And she's no longer, I think, handcuffed to certain ideas, principles, whatever. She's pro, she was married before his daughter. So for her, she's like, I care. Like, you know what I mean? She, she's not bitter, you know, but her dating stories are hilarious because I think she just sees it as, some of it's just entertaining.

I have not heard her denigrate a single man. She just said, they're a mess. Oh my goodness. Hey, what's up? What you doing? You are, you're in a different time zone. Take your butt bag. You shouldn't even be awake. Hi there. That's my buddy Derek. He told me, be safe driving work. I will. Yeah, I, I just kind of felt like when I was listening to her talk and I was like, you know, she does have a much healthier perspective on being outside.

I was talking to the other coworker, now, we don't talk about this type type of thing often, but it was one of those random, I called the water cooler conversations. And she's like, I'm not going out there. She was like, and she, she had a couple of little horror stories and she was like, I can't deal with that. And she's young, you know, when I say young, I would say about 30. She's like, I'm not dealing with it. So it got me thinking like, are we now at the point where we just would rather be alone and, and, and not deal with people?

I kind of get it right. If I had to go outside, I think I would stay inside, right? I'm like, I don't wanna deal with that. Right? But I don't wanna denigrate anybody either. And I listened to some of these men when they're talking, and I remember saying to one guy, I was like, you are literally problem. You're too old. You're talking about women being recreationalists. And then you're like, I can't find a good one. I'm like, well, look at how you're treating them.

I'm like, you don't think you're contributing to the problem? He's like, probably. I'm like, how can you possibly expect to meet someone to connect someone when you're going into it not wanting to connect with anyone? And it's like, you know, women are savages. I'm like, you're too old to be saying these things. I'm like, but look at your behavior. Look at your behavior. But anyway, so she said, so I called the IGO.

We talked about IGO, I'm gonna call it ego. She said it's ghetto outside. When I talked to the, the guy, and I actually like this guy. He is actually entertaining. Some of his stories are entertaining. Some of the stories that he tells me about the women. I'm like, oh my gosh. But I'm like, aren't you seeking certain types of women? He's like, well, I'm like, so you keep doing what you're doing. You are gonna keep getting what you're getting, right?

This light was finally turning green. So I'm like, if you keep doing what you're doing, you're gonna keep getting what you're getting Now. Please excuse me for the weird voice. You know, I have not fully recovered. I don't know when he's going to return to its full strength. But I said, you know, don't you want to meet somebody? He's just as silly as me. Like, and then I was like, oh, I don't wanna like make it seem like he's gotta meet me, but because I'm silly, he's silly. I'm like, don't you wanna meet somebody that's gonna make you laugh?

I said, you know, you're so serious about some stuff. Like, he's silly with me, right? Because I have no dog in a fight. He's not checking for me. It's not that kind of party. But I said, don't you want to get your he haws with someone? Don't you want to have a level of comfort where you guys just chill and everything is not so transactional, right? And he, you know, he actually pause. He just looked at me.

I'm like, don't you want that? Don't you want, like, when you're sitting home and you're chilling and you guys to have to decide to spend time with each other, like, don't you want to like have like good conversation? At least sometime, sometimes. Don't you want that level of comfort, that level of safety? Like, doesn't nigga get tiresome looking for certain types of recreational relationships?

And you know, he boss. Now, keep in mind, I'm 40, he's older than me. He keeps himself together. He's kind of a good looking guy. But Cliff, like somebody like you, I would've run away from, I'm like, you, you approach dating so serious in terms of like, I think of that song Jose Loyal now, like, I don't like you say stuff like that, but I'm just saying, and I'm like, your approach. I'm like, at what point do you say this doesn't work?

So I can see why everyone is now little gunshot, right? Everyone's like, it is ghetto outside. And I'm like, but the approach, on the one hand, you got the one girl, she's like, I'm not going out there. I don't wanna deal with it. She would rather be alone. She's like, no, I'll hang out with some friends or hang out by myself, hang out with my mom. And this guy, he approached it transactionally. They, he's like, they gotta be this, they gotta be that. They can't be this age, can't, he's like all this stuff.

And I'm like, but what you're doing isn't working. Tell me what you're doing. It's, how does this work anyway, so it's, it's got outside. I'm so sorry about my voice, you know? 'cause ever since I caught death and I've been trying to recover from death, I have been a mess. But anyway, it's ghetto outside. The one who said that, she's like, oh, come on, come on outside. It's ghetto outside. Come on outside.

And I was like, I don't know what personality I would be. On the one hand, I think I, I like to just live my life, but on the other hand, I don't think I would wanna date anyone because I don't, I wouldn't wanna put in the mental effort, right? I, I'm like, I don't wanna have to, you know, curate the healthy relationship. I think I would want to just not have it and avoid the headache. I don't wanna denigrate anybody, but I think I would be like, yeah, good.

Based off all the horror stories from both sides. And let me just say this because I'm so silly on the inside, these stories were hilarious to me. You know, the one who said it's ghetto outside. She was laughing as she was telling the story because I was like, really? She was like, I can't make this up. And I'm like, yeah, I think I was just bypass. Unless I was just looking for something to hear all about, I think I would probably bypass too. She said, no, I'm having fun. Because you just see what it is.

It may go on a date. I may not, it's not a thing. But she, they, they, they talk about it's ghetto outside. The one guy taught me a new bird, so I don't know if it's like a local word, but I was taught Savage savages. And I'm like, but what are savages? And he said, the savages, the savages are the women who are really, really light or biracial, especially the ones that can, the biracial ones that could probably pass who date wealthy white men.

I was like, wait, what? He was like, those are the savages. I was like, whoa. That's like a thing. He's like called savages. So I don't know if it's like a local thing or word that he used mean he coined or if that's like a thing. But I didn't know. I was like, what? And he broke down how when he's hanging out with his friends And they go watch savages, even if he's with like a female friend and they're dating, he's like, they're just people watching.

And they, they're, they're entertained. So I guess I can see how being these ghet south, outside, outside could be entertaining too. Because even he was lapping. So he's like the savages. So he is like, it's interesting watching, like if I'm on a date with a woman, how she sees it too. She gets, he's like, so the woman kind of like, get mad, but the men, they just, people watch when he's just hanging out with, with buddies or whatever and drinking. And they, we would recap some of these conversations, but he talks about savages.

I had never heard of the Savages. And it was almost, I felt like I was in the middle of a National Geographic like documentary as he was documenting. Then you see how they go, and then as they silos up, blah, blah, blah. And he was talking about how when the Savages are dating these wealthy white men, how many of them look like the Crip? And some of them are, you know, put together. He is like, you can tell the ones that have left their families at home.

Like they're just out, they've got a family And they're the ones who are just old, whatever, and how they move. And so I said, well, why don't you just enjoy the shenanigans? He is like, oh, when IGO to X certain number of spots because they like the food and being on the water or whatever. He's like, I do. But he was talking about how they move and the kind of dudes, like, there's like a whole subculture on, on the Savages.

And occasionally he goes out to watch The Savages. And I was like, so what are the qualifications to be a savage? And he was breaking it down. Like a lot of times he said, these, these wealthy white men, like these biracial or really light women, because now this is what he said, because it gives them that almost like, well, there's the exotic factor, but the, the almost like, not dangerous, but like, like a thrill or something.

Almost. Like they can have proximity to blackness without being with the black person. Like, but they still have black DNA. But he was just like, yeah, but it's almost like now, I don't know. I think he's just talking. I don't know. But there's like a whole thing around the savages. And I'm invested now. I am invested. 'cause you know, I'm not outside, right? You know, so I'm invested in the savage ring. He was like, the way they move And they don't even talk to certain people.

Like, you have to be going up to get a savage. But he's like, think about it. There's, it's, there's something like basically thrilling about having this proximity to the black and the black, black. And I was like, what? I so Jane, he's like, yes. He's like, when he's out and about, it's like, you, it's like a lot. They, the s So anyway, let me just say this.

I'm just going to summarize this as apparently if you're outside, it's ghetto. It is ghetto outside. And I'm learning di about different demographics. The one woman who talked about it being ghetto outside, just listening to her, I don't know what happened to, oh, there we go.

I'm back. So listening to her talk about the wealthy doctors, that what's funny, you know, I'm a generational so and so, so and so that had, that took me out. It took me out. So here now she dates about to do doctors. I mean that was just for that little stint, right? And I think she's just moved on to something else, listening to how homie watches the Savages. And the one girl, she's like, I'm not coming outside.

I was just entertained. All right, so look, go ahead and subscribe to my channel. I'm entertaining or maybe not. And it's all I got. That's all I got. I hope you guys have a good day and you leave the comments and I will talk to you in the next video.

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