S5E32 The women obsession

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Speaker 1 (0s): All right. It's been a while since I've done a video this early in the morning. It's just a little after nine. Welcome to my channel on the Black Opinion. The woman also known Isabel. So I'm going to come off camera so I can turn the light off in my vehicle. Okay. All right. I'm still here. All right, so let's just get on into it. I just wanna talk about how I, I don't know how to frame this.

I said so for a while I hadn't seen much of people getting, you know, on camera on, you know, getting on a podcast, talking about women right Now. Let's be clear, I wasn't looking for it either, but it was a welcome break from those topics, you know, 'cause I've tried to scroll past a lot of those things, but sometimes you just give these splits that are in your algorithm. And sometimes I listen, sometimes I don't. Most of the time I try to like just swipe past.

However, they started showing back up and this is kind of like where I give a couple of hee halls though. So I figured the reason why people weren't talking about it so much is 'cause they have, there was so much other stuff going on in the news that was heat horrible. I mean, you got stuff going on with this administration and you have stuff that was going on with the weather. You have stuff that was just like, you have like stuff going on with the CEO get caught. The kids can, with the HR person. You, you, you have these other factors.

And then when those start to bore people, people go right back to what they believe is their bread and butter. And apparently it must be, and that is to sit there and talk about when, I don't understand why, but I wanna say men in general, like you're supposedly leaders and all this sort of stuff. And, and, and you act like you don't need women, but you need women everywhere.

You need women to make your podcasts run 'cause you won't have anything to talk about. And then you need, and you need that to, to basically push to the same dudes who like, follow that kind of content. I just don't understand why people want to sit up on a podcast and talk about women so much. And then half of these guys, when they're thinking that they're being complimentary, they don't even realize how idiotic they sound.

'cause they refer to women as bees and hopes. And we have to stop that. You very rarely see women get up on social media and have full panels dedicated to bashing men. And they, and they'll just use and say men, they don't call them slur words like, like bees and stuff like that. Like they don't do that. They don't do that. Or I haven't seen it. I'll say that women do not dedicate that many mental cycles towards men on podcasts.

At least I haven't seen it. And if it's going on, I'll put it to you like this. I don't think that's the norm, right? Like there's always exceptions to every rule. So if you have to point out an exception, they're just like, perfect my point. But I just see these men get up on these podcasts And they refer to women as bees and hoes. Every woman is a baby mama. I'm like, she's a mother, she's a whole mother. And then they're like, well, Beatie can protect black women too.

I'm like, everything about it. It's just, ugh. I'm like, this is what we have representing men, that that's what's representing men. I, I guess I'm just kind of like confused as to like, what else are men interested in talking about besides sports? Because there's not a whole lot of that going on in the landscape, which is why you have to surface back to talking about women, I guess. Right?

What else is going on? The the cold play kiss campaign is, is like, that's, it's toning down. We know Malcolm Small Warner has passed, which is a tough loss for, you know, the industry, just for the culture. You know, we remember him as Theo from the C show. We, we already know about like all this mc stuff that keeps coming out, that everybody keeps, everyone keeps threatening that more information's gonna come out like, all right, whatever.

Like, you guys it out, right? We've already gone through a lot of the weather stuff with flooding and everything like that, and I'm sure there's gonna be more that's gonna happen, right? But, so when everything starts to run dry, people wanna circle back to let's talk about women. I'm like, if you, let's talk, what else are you passionate about? Besides talking about how women aren't this, women aren't that it is the creepiest thing creep? I don't understand why there's that much of a push and fascination for talking about women.

I don't get it. And I, I I don't know. It just because there isn't just like, like a significant level of discomfort surrounding mean, you know, the fact that I think women are no longer asking for permission to be who they are. I, I don't know. So this is what I would say. I would say that men and women definitely need each other. That's for, for for sure, right? I think men and women offer up, I'm gonna say maybe different things to each other, but I, this whole concept of masculinity and femininity on, on one hand I get where people are coming from, but I think both sexes possess masculine and feminine traits.

It's just that men that typically possess more masculine traits, I would say, you know, in general and, and, and, and with women typically more feminine. But I think what happens right now is because men have not evolved and women have, I think that they're going, we're going through a period of transformation with these men that now it's hard for them to reconcile. What does womanhood look like? Well, they, they, they have no concept of womanhood, but they have a concept of like, maybe this is what femininity is.

And, And they, maybe I should just retract both things, is what I'm saying, right? Like they can't really explain, or, or I'm having a hard time with my words here. So please take my apologies. I I think men are trying to reconcile what their masculinity looks like in proximity to a woman in this transformational form of femininity.

Maybe that's what I'm trying to say, because I am definitely fumbling my words. I'm fumbling my words here. And so if anybody wants to call me out, you're more than welcome to call me out. And I am struggling with how to, to explain this. So this isn't a gotcha moment. But I think when I see men constantly getting up here on these podcasts or having these cooks that come out, which is so annoying, I think they are struggling with what does their masculinity look like in proximity to this new woman?

Because womanhood and femininity and all those, well, I don't know if womanhood is being redefined, but I would be, I would say femininity is, is, is, is is being shaped differently in, in these 20, 25 years. The, the 20, the 2020s era, right? I think femininity looks different. It looks different. And so now men clamoring with trying to hang their hat onto something because on the one hand they have not evolved as much.

And, and, and look, if, if you, if you want to dispute that, that's fine. I'm not going to argue that. I think that because the rate at which women have evolved, I think it is alarming for them. And so they, they, they long for something that they believe is familiar when in actuality there are certain things that are in the past that were harmful. Now, that's not to say that all change has been spectacular for women, but as a woman, and when I see these men get up on these podcasts talking about women all the time, I'm just telling you, if I were single, I would be turned off by that man.

I would be more concerned about why he isn't talking about how men are not like, talk about what's going on with the transformation of men. Talk about how we are going to evolve technology or evolve what does medical care look like or, you know, evolve. What does obtaining an like, like methods for obtaining formal education instead of complaining about women, oh, you're just going to go get those degrees, but it's gonna keep it warm at night.

The question is why are you not getting yours? Instead of questioning and saying like, oh, you're just gonna have that or whatever. 'cause the question is, why are we not figuring out ways of securing our education? Why are we not figuring out ways of securing large swaths of land? Because people are coming in from around the world and they're buying up stuff, and yet we can't even, you know, get a postage stamp, a postage stamp size of, of, of, of land.

Why can't we go in and talk about how we are going to subsidize our own farmers so that they can start giving back to our community so that we can feed our communities healthy food and have different options? Why aren't we having these conversations with how we are going to evolve urban living, living so that we can provide our people with options and we become less reliant on big pharma. Now, you know, big pharma doesn't want that, but if we were to go in there and purchase land and, you know, get these permits and do these things, you know, and, and start providing, you know, I, I don't know, urban gardens, gardens that say gardens, gardens.

And if we, you see what I mean? Like, so we are not having these kinds of conversations. We're not having conversations about, you know, how to evolve supply chain issues or anything like that. We're not talking about any of those things. What we wanna talk about is a woman's femininity. But I'm like, you are not doing anything masculine where we can take the back seat.

I'm not seeing that evolve that, that, that evolution. Why am I fumbling my word so early this morning? I sound like I'm just making up stuff, right? Like the proclamation of the emancipation of, you know, but we are not seeing men say, Hey, let's evolve our conversation. Let's evolve ourselves. So now we are coming to women with something, with solutions, with opportunities, with, with these other healthier perspectives.

And we're not interested in like bashing Tara Mcow. We've got men wanting women to stop being hosts. That that's the common conversations that I hear. And there's nothing wrong with that if these are one off conversations, but this is all their conversation. I'm like, well wait a second, you want want me to stop being ho? But you have to stop being promiscuous. You have to stop being a gigolo. You haven't stopped being a cat. You haven to stop being unfaithful. You haven to stop being disrespectful.

So I mean, look, I usually don't like to have a whole lot of gender more conversations, but I just don't understand how men can get up on these podcasts and embarrass themselves weak in, in week out. It's giving secondhand embarrassment for me at this point because I'm like, you're still talking about this. And yet I'm like, we're looking at men who think they're intellectual And they sound so dumb. It's so embarrassing.

And I'm like, this is what is making it to the airways. This is what these young boys are hearing, always hearing. I know my daughter doesn't listen to that. I don't think my son's either. I think my oldest man has heard some of that stuff and I was getting on him. I'm like, oh no, this is what the men are putting out there for the men. You don't see any other grapes doing that. I'm like, oh my goodness, this. Anyway, we've gotta get past this obsession with women because this is the way I look at it.

Usually when someone wants something and if, if, if, like if one group has evolved into something else, and if another group wants to be part of that group, they're gonna do what it takes to be part of that group, right? So if you are looking for women who are less promiscuous will stop frequenting, you know, these other clubs where all the promiscuous women go. If you're, if you're doing certain things and, and you want women to be less of certain things, then then stop pursuing what you don't want.

Pursue what you want. I look at it like this, when if men want women to be a certain way, you don't have to sit there and bashing about it. Just don't choose that thing that you don't want. Because women have actually started now making those choices. They're like, I don't want men who are like ex, you've got women out here who won't even give people babies now. They're like, no, I don't want to date.

I don't wanna have babies. I don't even want to talk to you. You had a whole man get out the internet, get upset because a woman didn't need to speak to them in the grocery store. I'm like, on the one hand, you want women to be all these things And they say they should choose better. And now when she chooses not to even have a conversation with you, now that's a problem. I'm like, the whole thing is just not severe. The point I'm getting at is if you want something spec, if you want something specific and you choose that specific thing, When you start making different choices, people evolve because they wanna be part of that choice.

And because the same thing is happening for women right now anyway. I think these men need to stop getting on these podcasts talking about women. They look anti-intellectual, they look dumb, they are an embarrassment. They need to talk about these other things. There are plenty of things to talk about, but instead, as much as they act like they don't want or need women, women tend to be the center of their center of their conversations.

Women are the center of everything. So anyway, that's all I've got. Let me know your thoughts. Yeah, that's pretty much it. Go ahead and describe and I will talk to you next time.

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