S5E41 Minding My Business Era

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Speaker 1 (0s): Okay, so I'm sitting out here while my daughter is practicing her lacrosse and then I have to leave for something else. So I just wanna talk about me being in my mind, my business era. I was at something else last night and I was listening to these women who are perfectly nice people, but we were concerned about another person who's pregnant with twins.

And I know it's like to be pregnant with twins. Long story short, everyone's talking about all the things they're gonna do and how they're gonna intervene to get her to take it down a noch. She's going to have to go on bed rest or whatever because she's doing too much, blah, blah, blah. And I'm the only one who actually said something. I said, look, she has my number, her and I tried reaching out to her, see if she needed, needed to pick up her daughter for something, blah, blah, blah. But at the end of the day, I said, it's none of my business.

She has a whole husband at home. And it seemed like it was such a novel idea for people to like kind of like mind her own business because I'm like, she has a whole husband. Only one lady really caught it at first. She looked at me, she was like, and I said, why would I care more about somebody and their business than, than themselves? Meaning it's none of my business. It's none of my business. If she wants to run herself ragged while she's pregnant with twins and she's, she's getting up there, I was like, at the end of the day, it's none of my business.

You can make suggestions, but people do what they wanna do. My mother always told me that people do what they want to do. So if they want to do all these extra things, they're gonna do it. So my thing was is that I was like, she clearly doesn't wanna stop. I'm like, but at the end of the day she has a whole husband, so why am I gonna sit there saying like I'm, we're gonna, you know, I'm gonna go in and I'm gonna tell her this, that and the other. And like people were literally trying to like get caught up.

Like they were going to set up like shifts to like make sure she said like, I'm not doing that to a grown woman. Whatcha talking about like this? What's getting outta control? So I'm more like, look, I need for people. I said, honestly, it's about minding my business. I'm like, I'm just gonna mind my business. And I'm like, who am I to sit there and impose my thoughts and will on someone else?

And it just seemed like such a noble idea to people. I'm like, people need to stay out of it. And only one parent really got it. And I think others got quiet for a second. I was like, no. I said, she's grown. I said, we gotta stay outta people's business. And where I'm going with this is, this is the mind my business era. Now don't get me wrong, if I think that you're going to put yourself in harm's way, but even, well, I mean when I'm talking about extreme harm's way, but at the end of the day, I don't believe in getting in people's marital business. I mean at the end of the day, if she needs to stop doing extra, that's for her and her husband to and her doctor to decide.

And yes, she's constantly putting herself in a situation, but ultimately I am not going to sit there and police a grown woman on what she should and shouldn't be doing. And I don't know why people feel like they gotta go in and save people. I'm like, I just think it's out of pocket anyway, with my mind, my business era or I'm in my mind, my business era, I just feel like we need to be mindful that if you have friends or acquaintances who are married and stuff like that, stay outta people's business.

Stay outta people's marital business. And it's literally like dumb. I mean like it's over like her overdoing it too much while being pregnant with twins. I'm like, you're not her doctor. And is she overdoing it? Yes. But at the end of the day, it's not my job to go in there and wag the finger at someone and tell them to stop. I feel like everyone else is trying to get involved. 'cause they care so much. I'm like, you know what you can do? The best thing you can do is get out the way.

Get out the way. You gotta let people have their process. You gotta let people have their paint, whatever it is. But I'm like, why do you think it is your job to like, I'm just gonna go over there and maybe I'll set up work here or maybe I'll do that there and maybe I'm like, no. People are like, well I'm just gonna bring food over. I'm like, stop. She has a husband. She has a husband. I'm like, it's getting to the point where now that I think that boundaries are on the verge, if not already of being crossed.

What you do is you step back and you let people be who they are and and run their house where they want. That's it. I just don't know why people think it's their job to get in somebody else's business anyway. I dunno. I just feel like for all of you out there, mind your business, just mind your freaking business. Stay out of people's business over things. I'm like, is that why you're losing sleepover?

Stop. Anyway, that's my TikTok for today.